I think sometimes we hold on to the past, to the memories, even if they are painful because once we let go of them, what are we supposed to do if we don't have something to hold on to? We have to let go to find the new, but that's hard. We don't want to float around in limbo. We want to hold on to the past while we are looking for our future. We want to let go of the past and grab on tight to the future at the same time, we want a safety net. We never want to fall.
We want our lives to play out to the fantasy we have thought it could have been if things were different, so we hold on to that. But chances are it won't be, no matter how much we want it. And that's when we have to move on. To one day find the life we didn't know we could have, to find the life we didn't know we wanted.
It's hard to let go of the past when there's no future to hold on to. I guess we'll all just have to blindly free fall for a while and that's scary as hell.