Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Do It Yourself

Have you ever been volunteered for something, especially something you don't want to do. It's the worse. Why do some people think it's okay to say another person will do something without asking them? I mean, how dumb can you be? People have their own lives going on, they aren't at the beck and call of you. Don't volunteer someone else, do it yourself!
Then, if you are volunteered to do something, you look like the jerk when you can't do it because you are busy with something else, you let someone down; not the idiot who volunteered you. So, you inconvenience yourself and try to get it done all the meanwhile seething in rage (okay, that may be a little extreme, but probably not), not wanting to be doing whatever asinine thing they volunteered you for. Then resenting the person who volunteered you. Doesn't it just make you want to smack them?

Friday, March 26, 2010

How Fast Life Can Turn

My family has been friends with another family for years and today I found out their 11 year old son has osteogenic sarcoma, bone cancer, in his right femur and was diagnosed about a month ago. I haven't seen any of them in almost 3 years and keeping in contact gets difficult as time goes on and I was shocked when I found out. The family has a blog (it's not exactly a blog, but is similar to keep everyone updated on his treatment. It's called caringbridge.org, "Connecting family and friends when health matters most.") They too are a military family and the huge number of people who are praying for his recovery and concerned for him and his family are scattered across not only the United States, but the entire world. The last time I saw him he was 7 or 8 years old, and the cutest, most fun kid ever and it just breaks my heart to know how much he is suffering right now and how much he will have to suffer on the long road to recovery. It is so weird how one day someone can be completely fine, running around playing sports, than a couple blood tests and scans later they have cancer and have to go through surgery and chemotherapy. This news has definitely made today a melancholy day for me. It was really upsetting news and the future is so unsure right now, but things are looking good from the start for him. He is a tough little guy and my prayers are with him and his family and hope that the military brings our family's close together again as it has done twice in past years.


Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Waiting and Hating

I do not understand why people can't be on time. And furthermore, I can not understand why people don't care that they aren't on time. It just flat out baffles me. Maybe it was the way I was raised, maybe it's just the way I am, but when I am late it absolutely kills me, it stresses me out (and I'm sure we all have enough in our lives that stress us out. We don't need to add anymore self-inflicted stress). Not to say I am never late, but I am generally on time... or even early. I like to plan to be to places early, because what if you can't find your shoes, or you get lost on the way there or something happens out of your control. If you have planned on being early you'll still be there on time. And it just ensure that I am not late. If you get places early you don't feel rushed, you get better seats, you don't walk in awkwardly late, etc., frankly the list of benefits goes on. Every now and then you might wake up late and don't get out the door on time, that's okay, no big deal if it's not on a regular basis. But I hate it when some people are just flat out late ALL the time. You obviously can't get ready in the time you think you can, get up 15 minutes earlier! Trust me, it is not going to kill you, you will survive. And don't mosey along in getting ready, get your butt moving. If you being late only affects you, then alright, be late and just look like an idiot by yourself. But if you being on time effects other people....you can not be late. It is not okay to make others late when they would have been on time if not for you. Do they realize how inconsiderate that is to those they are making late? It's just ridiculous, and makes people resent them and hate going places with them. Does it not embarrass them that they are never on time, for ANYTHING? When I say I am leaving at 5, it means at 5 I am walking out the door to my car, not at 5:10, not 5:15, at 5 o'clock...in the car, leaving. Give yourself more time (more than you think, because you definitely need it), just be on time and keep others from waiting on you. I don't get why people think it's okay and no big deal to be late. It's rude and super annoying.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. --John 15:13

I've learned that goodbyes will hurt, pictures never replace being there, memories-good or bad-bring tears and words can never replace those feelings.

Friends are so vital to us, we aren't meant to be alone, we need friends to survive in this world.
Have any of you really thought about your friends? How much they influence you? How much you influence them? I have had to make a lot of friends over and over again because I have moved so many times in my life. I have had okay friends, I have had good and really good friends and I have had a handful of truly best friends. I have lost many friends over the years whether it be because of fights and differences we were to immature and proud to move past or because it is hard to keep in touch over thousands of miles (or even a few) and over the years. Too much life happens in between. Have you ever told your friends how much you care about them, how much you value them as a person and their opinions? I probably have not enough, though I do make a conscious point to try to. Sometimes we don't realize how much our friends save us from ourselves, and you may never know what your friendship means to another. I know a lot of my friends have impacted my life so greatly and changed who I am for the better. They have taught me a lot and they have all been there for me through different stages and parts of my life. And I will bend over backwards, past points I thought I would break, and do more than I thought I could for my friends, they matter so much to me. Sometimes it has truly amazed me that someone has come into my life and made such a lasting imprint when only a few months previously I didn't know they even existed... sometimes they, or you, walk into each other's life just when you need them most. Sometimes I don't think we let our friends know how they matter until it's too late, sometimes we don't realize how much they mattered until we're actually apart. David Thoreau (the best quotes come from this guy) said, "Goodbye's make you think. They make you realize what you've had and what you've lost, and what you've taken for granted." Don't take your friends for granted, and try to tell them how much they mean to you. You never know when it will be too late to tell them, because life happens, it gets in the way, we lose touch, we have falling outs, and we forget. Take a picture of your life before it all changes. But no matter what happens, no matter how often or little I talk to my friends I know and used to know, you made a difference and I love you and will always be here for you.

PS-two of the greatest songs: Photograph by Nickelback and Last Summer by Lost Prophets.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Knowledge encourages obedience, and obedience enhances knowledge.

So, this post will really only make sense if you are LDS, just sayin. It's the first Sunday of the month, we all know what the means. No food, fml, right? Actually, that's not that big of a deal to me. It really means it's fast and testimony meeting this bright, sunny morning :) Now, if testimony meeting ran as it should it would be an uplifting, spiritual meeting. This is how a testimony meeting should run:
-Start ON time (and everyone
shuts up)
-Ward Announcements
-Opening Hymn followed by the Invocation
-Sacrament Hymn then, obviously, the Sacrament
-Testimonies (until there are EXACTLY 5 minutes left in the meeting)
-Closing Hymn
-Benediction
Done, that's it. Start and end on time, I'm sick of this "Mormon Standard Time" crap, btw.

Now, how does one bear their testimony? Obviously, very few people know how. You get up and as coherently as you can bear your testimony in under 5 minutes.
1. Don't tell us a story. It's really hard to feel the spirit when people get up on the stand and go on and on (you aren't the energizer bunny) about trips they have taken and telling a story that is WAY to long and mostly irrelevant. If the story is going to take longer to tell than your actual testimony of Christ, the Atonement and the truthfulness of the LDS church *which is what a testimony is supposed to be,* don't tell it. We don't need the details, we only need a 3 sentence summary of the relevant parts.
2. Speaking of time, there is a whole ward trying to bear their testimonies once a month in less than an hour. Be courteous, keep it short and to the point. Others want a turn too.
3. When we are supposed to end 5 minutes until the meeting ends, don't wait! Get up and get in line. Once that clock ticks to the time Sacrament Meeting is supposed to be closing, NO ONE is listening anymore. It is so un-okay to get up and disregard everyone else by making time run over. Kids are done being reverent and you are cutting into Sunday school time that the teachers have spent a lot of time on preparing their lessons. It is disrespectful. Don't you think this meeting is long enough as it is without the speakers blasting right past closing time.
4. Don't get to the stand and say "I didn't want to come up here but I just felt I needed to...I don't really know what I'm going to say, so bare with me(the phrase ' so bare with me' is my least favorite in the english langauge')...I'm really nervous, I was just sitting there and felt the need to get up...." Frankly, we don't care why you are bearing your testimony, we just care that you are.
5. It's okay if you cry because of your emotions, that is fine; but if your language has turned into blubbering incoherentness that isn't even english anymore....please close as best you can and gather yourself in the audience.
6. Don't bring your kid up with you (unless they too are going to bear their testimony-which should only be done if they can a. speak b. going to give a real testimony and c. can give it by themselves properly without parental help). They pull at your clothes, hair, jewelry, the tissues and the mic and regularly let out a blood curdling scream as if they were being murdered. Unacceptable.
7. Politics are NOT for church, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever.......ever.
8. Don't slam people/groups/other religions (that's not very Christ-like). You don't know who you are offending. Mormons aren't the only ones making it to Heaven. I would be TERRIFIED to bring an investigator to church on a fast & testimony meeting Sunday because who knows what will come out of the member's mouths. Fast & testimony meeting Sunday should be the best time to bring investigators.
9. It's not a "holier than thou" spiel time either. Or a time to one-up the other members of your ward.
10. Just bear your testimony of what you know and believe, it is that simple and will bring the spirit to you and those listening. And those listening, be quiet.

I mean testimony meeting for me and others I know is just a frustrating experience because people don't think. My friend Melanie had a great point. The bishop at the beginning should remind everyone what an actual testimony should be, quickly bear his and sit down. Then end the meeting on time regardless if people are still in line. There is always the next meeting that teachers often leave extra time at the end for those that didn't have the chance to bear their testimony in Sacrament to give theirs in class. And there is always next month. Also, when the bishop of whoever is presiding over the meeting talks forever when he does get up to close the meeting-that needs to end too.
I know I am not the only one who shares these feeling toward Testimony Meeting. We really aught to strive to bring it back to what is was supposed to be. There is a talk by Elder Dallin H. Oaks that outlines what a testimony IS, it's called Knowledge encourages obedience, and obedience enhances knowledge (sound familiar?) http://lds.org/conference/talk/display/0,5232,23-1-851-10,00.html
While I was looking for this talk online I stumbled upon this blog that ya'll should read too, it makes similar and more points that I share and agree with.
(http://correctprinciples.blogspot.com/2005/11/bearing-testimony.html)

Now, real quick (maybe) let us talk about that fateful Thursday night around the fire or in the pavilion of Girls Camp. That's right-testimonies at girls camp. Every girl gets up and immediately the water works start and they (quite literally cry the entire time) go on and on how they didn't want to come to camp this year...they didn't know if it was going to be fun...if the girls would be nice...they were nervous...etc, etc. But they came and they are so glad they did because it was super fun, all the girls are so wonderful and they love each other so much, and the leaders are great etc, etc. When in reality ALL freaking week everyone was fighting and loathed each other. Face it, it's hundreds of girls; we are so so mean to each other. We are awful, tearing others down to just build ourselves up is a regular occurrence. We enjoy it. So, don't lie during your testimony. Also, we don't want a "friendimony" or a "thankimony" no no, that's not okay.
Testimony meeting is supposed to be uplifting and spiritually fulfilling. Just everyone, learn what a testimony is supposed to be, use your heads, have common sense and decency, be respectful and share you stories with your friends in an appropriate setting. Don't get me wrong, I love my church/religion and believe in it's Gospel. I'm just tired of people's actions and not using their heads and the brains God gave them. That's all.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Public Displays of Annoyance

PDA. Everyone does it, but too many couples cross the line. Aw, cute ya'll are holding hands, a quick peck and/or a hug to say goodbye or hello. I'm glad you have a significant other, I approve. But, when I'm walking through the JKB on campus I don't want to see your dorky, awkward and gangly boyfriend sprawled across the floor in the lobby in the middle of the day with you passed out with your head on his chest. I mean seriously? No one wants to see that. And no one wants to see you and your girlfriend making out in the square because, oh no you both have class and have to be separated for a whole FIFTY minutes. What are ya'll going to do with yourselves?! Then walking through the Tanner Building and I come around a corner and the MOST awkward couple I think I have ever seen in my entire life is fused together at the lips in a doorway to a freaking classroom at 1 in the afternoon. I mean c'mon, just go home and make out on your coach or in your car. I don't care where, I mean good for you, you have someone to make out with, but we don't want to see it. And no one really cares you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Please don't try to make your relationship as public as possible to show off your boy (b/c most people are not going to find him attractive) or your girl (I mean this IS BYU it may be her first boyfriend ever, and no one wants to see that awkwardness). Having a girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't make you better than the single student population and acting like it does just makes no one like you...actually makes everyone kind of loathe you. And when you can't go 5 minutes with out talking to your bf/gf, just makes you seem clingy, desperate and pathetic. Have some independence and pride. No, I am currently not in a relationship but when I am I can go more than a few hours without having a meltdown if I don't get to see or talk to him and I don't make out so the whole world can see. No one wants to see you all over each other. Oh, and FYI, ya'll are probably not as cute as you think, stop subjecting us to your nerdy relationships. K, thanks :)